Self Healing is the ability to make yourself the psychologist of you and heal trauma by inner reflexion. Is the ability to recognise the underlying issues that occur in psychic and change it to an aligned state by a completely transparent and honest talk.
It requires courage to face beliefs that hold our behaviours in reality and make the change for better ones.
As Parov Stelar music sings Life is New Everyday. You can have a new life everyday by shifting your Belief System everytime.
In this topic I will go through a healing that I made on myself just by writing it down while facing a sunny morning in Brighton, UK.
I feel rejection and I know something must change, this feeling hurts me. I know once I decide to make the change and see the different outcome will be very fulfilling to my soul.
The correct path to self healing is recognising the truth.
Why I feel Rejection?
Brain follow instructions in order to get my need or desire fulfilled by other way around instead of a direct approach, that hurts me. Brain does it for self love actually but is very logic that does not understand is going around in circles instead of a rout from point A to B.
I would like to explain further what I am going through:
I want to met a wonderful beautiful partner and have the desire to have a conversation with him, the fear of being rejected might interfere with the ability to get a nice conversation. What is happening is an underlying fear of being rejected that my brain is protecting and avoiding in order to not experience pain.
to recognise… to admit… to Change.
To change for making that desire happen is change my belief that Rejection is something bad and sad. Rejection might be a feeling of no acceptance and no identification of other person towards me and an attitude or a characteristic of myself is not appreciated.
I also believe tho Rejection must be seen as something natural of behaviourism and feeling. Therefore I accept to be disliked and rejected nevertheless the amount of love I have for myself.
I actually accept to be rejected because set me apart of people that resonate with different energy as mine. To be rejected and disliked is good and I accepted with a smile.
Deeper in the pain…
It is hard tho to be rejected by someone that personifies my desire. Like someone I really like and he likes me too and still feel rejected. Hum might sound weird but makes all the sense for my soul.
I ask a couple of questions to help me clarify:
Why would I be rejected for someone who likes me?
I wouldn’t actually, If someone likes me they will not reject me… I think I thought that people liked me even though they didn’t had an approval of me. So, someone who clearly have said that likes me at the bottom did not mean it seriously. I feel then deceived by believing in something that wasn’t truth. I wasn’t appreciated by people who told me the opposite, they didn’t like me at all.
Do I recognise that these people I though I liked actually they don’t like me?
Do I accept the truth that there are people that don’t like me?
Yes. I just wanted to understand the truth I was into. Now I can see clearly that I was led to believe I was liked when the truth is I wasn’t! That made me feel for such a long time not valid and I couldn’t understand why.
What is the reason I feel not valid?
The reason I feel not valid is because someone who loves me doesn’t like me. In plain words is they say something but did not mean it. Is like saying I love me but actually I don’t.
Have I been really rejected?
I think yes I got rejected because I felt rejected
And Is love rejection?
No, love is not rejection. Love is acceptance. Love might hurts but never rejects.
Who then rejected me or I felt rejected by?
My father, first partner, brother, mother, school colleague, common people, all of them shortly rejected me.
My father told me he liked me but never accepted me for being me. He only would have accepted me if I had behaved in a different way that I am. Therefore I was unconsciously rejected by him.
What is rejection?
Rejection is to deny in myself an aspect of myself. To feel denied for being myself.
What is self love?
Self love is to accept myself.
Is love for the self despite the rejection I feel in myself.
Do I reject myself?
What rejection do I feel in myself?
To be rejected. (it’s clear!)
I reject myself to feel rejected because I know there is no reason to feel rejected.
If brain was hurt in the past because of rejection it projects the rejection onto new experiences.There is a reason to feel rejected (my past) although I can say and explain clearly to me this moment:
I was rejected in the past but I accept myself in the present and I am ready to feel and be different – I accept myself in present.
Here is when the self healing happens!
I might have rejected myself in the past due to being and felt rejected by exterior connections but now I accept myself in the present and I am ready to embrace that feeling of me. I no longer feed the fear of being rejected again because I had recognised a lie behind love and acceptance and non acceptance.
~ I am healed. ~
My trauma is I was led to believing in something that wasn’t true, particularly that I was loved and nurtured by a father figure that actually rejected me. I did not know that and ended up rejecting myself. Now I know the hidden truth and can align myself to the belief that I love & accept of myself, also regardless of who might have rejected me in the past.
I just needed to know what was happening because my father never told me he rejected me, I just had to figure out by myself.
This is my specific trauma and you reading this might have different circumstances that need to be treated and dealt and asked in different way but ultimately will lead to the healing that I am experiencing right now.
Please explore your traumas and set yourself FREE!
Hope you go.